After yesterdays conversations, and racking my brains as to invalidating experiences in my childhood, which may have contributed to my emotional issues now, but as usual, I had a mental block and couldn’t think of anything (sometimes I wonder if that’s my brains way of protecting myself).
Anyway, I didn’t have to wait for long. This morning, I was sniffling and snuffling, and I wondered to myself out loud, ‘I wonder if I have developed Hay fever?’. Immediately my mum replied – ‘No you haven’t’.
So, as soon as she said it, I could easily identify that as an invalidating response. A validating response would have been ‘What makes you think that?’ ‘Perhaps you should look into that?’
There endeth my observation.