Monthly Archives: March 2013

A new blog award

Thank you very much to motheroutlaw for this very kind nomination. Awards always make me feel great about myself and my blog! Here are the questions I need to answer for the award acceptance: I nominate YOU for the Leibster Award! Congratulations! It means I enjoy reading your blog and you have under 200 followers […]

Mother Issues

I am feeling so angry and frustrated and am struggling to articulate how I feel, but I will try my best. It is quickly becoming clear to me how problems develop in children who feel they are unable to communicate, how they easily become angry, act out or implode. Last week, I dropped some post […]

DBT Skill ‘FAST’ & ‘DEARMAN’ in action

The DBT skills DEARMAN and FAST is used when you are in a confrontational situation where you need to maintain the respect for yourself whilst still being assertive and putting your point across. DEAR MAN is an acronym for Describe, Express, Assert, Re-inforce, (stay) Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate FAST is an acronym for be Fair, […]

Having a child when you have Borderline Personality Disorder

As far back as I can remember, I have wanted to have a family, but when I got ill I stopped believing it would ever happen. Now I have met James, I have allowed the thought to enter my head again, but obviously not until the time is right. I want to be in a […]

Free Online DBT Class – Start now if you are thinking about it

Last week the on-line DBT class that I do once per week ended, and it started again on Saturday at the beginning, with Lesson One, an introduction to DBT. This is a REALLY great class, I can’t say enough how much it is helping me. Every Saturday morning the moderators post a lesson from whichever […]

So this is what love is.

I love James. Totally and wholly. I cannot get enough of him. I would do anything he asked me to, anything at all to make him happy. I love everything about him, even the bits he doesn’t like himself. Suddenly, songs about love have so much more meaning – and I never realised that before […]

Homework number five: Online DBT Class

This week was a re-cap of the Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills, from the free on-line DBT class group http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/dbtclass/ HOMEWORK: Write out your examples of using the skills, made up or for real! Practising the skill FAST Yesterday I had a situation where the postman who delivers the mail to work made an inappropriate comment. I […]

Distress Tolerance – Part Five (Accepting Reality)

When finding yourself in a distressing situation, it can be a very useful skill to be able to accept the reality of that situation. In DBT terms, this is done through Radical Acceptance, Turning the Mind and Willingness . The word ‘radical’ means complete and total – which leads on to the fact that Radical […]

The proposed new criteria for the diagnosis of BPD (DSM-5 2013)

The proposed DSM-5 (2013) diagnostic criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder has been published. The essential features of a personality disorder are impairments in personality (self and interpersonal) functioning and the presence of pathological personality traits. To diagnose borderline personality disorder, the following criteria must be met: A. Significant impairments in personality functioning manifest by: 1. Impairments in […]

Distress Tolerance – Part Four (Pro’s and Con’s)

The final part of the distress tolerance module is about thinking of pro’s and con’s of tolerating or not tolerating a situation. The end goal of this process is allowing yourself to work out and understand that the pro’s of tolerating a situation far outweigh the pro’s of not tolerating it – and this can […]