Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline Personality Disorder (or more commonly referred to as BPD) is one of many mental illnesses that is characterised by a certain set of symptoms as set out by the DSM-IV Criteria.

What does BPM mean for me?

  • Intense fear of being abandoned or left -and as a result going out of my way to keep people happy an make people like me, and not want to leave me
  • Self harming behaviours and suicide attempts (both meaningful and attention seeking)
  • Impulsive behaviours (spending, speeding, shopping, tattoos and piercings, quick decisions, drug taking)
  • Promiscuous behaviours (sleeping around, one night stands, meaningless sex, working within the sex industry)
  • Intense and unstable relationships (At the start of a relationship being incredibly intense, then changing to disinterest for no apparent reason, this includes both intimate relationships and friendships)
  • Innappropriate attachments (To therapists, teachers, co-workers, friends)
  • Extremes of emotion and mood (That change rapidly, almost like a fast forwarded version of bi-polar)
  • Bulimic and anorexic tendancies
  • Innapropriate anger (Very intense rages for no apparent reason)
  • Dissociation (normally in relation to stress)
  • Lack of identity (No set ‘style’, confusion over sexual identity and orientation, constant attempts to re-invent myself with regards to lifestyle, clothing and hairstyle)
  • Psychotic tendancies (hallucinations, ‘voices’, disordered thinking [although some of these have been rare and only when I have been most ill])
  • Paranoia (‘He doesn’t love me’ ‘He’s cheating on me’ ‘They are talking about me’)

There are many treatments for BPD, but unfortunately you will come to realise that BPD isn’t something that can be cured, rather it needs to be managed. Most sufferers will explain that BPD is an integral part of themselves, most will feel that if you remove the BPD, there will be nothing left. There are several options for treatment, some cover treating the symptoms, work long term to improve the prognosis;

  • Pharmaceutical Treatment (Drugs) such as anti-depressants, anti-anxiety drugs, anti-psychotic drugs, mood stabilisers, sedatives, sleeping tablets
  • Psychotherapy and counselling (see Dialectical Behaviour Therapy)
  • Hospitalisation is frequently required to manage the short term implications of the disorder, sufferers are often sectioned to keep themselves safe
  • Self Help changing your lifestyle can help to ease some symptoms

Websites that may be of help to you:

Borderline Personality Disorder

Self Help Worksheets

BPD World

The Samaritans

Recover Your Life – Self Harm Support

Mind – Charity Website

Depression Alliance – Charity Website

Overcoming mental health problems

Please do not suffer alone. If you need help, please contact someone.  Please don’t suffer alone. If I can help, I will, so get in touch.

There is beauty out there – you just have to be strong enough to search for it.


  1. multiplemindsofmine · · Reply

    I’ve just started blogging about my BP/BPD and came across your site. Thank you so much for sharing. It’s like finding someone that speaks the same language 🙂

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  3. No problem. I hope I can help you. xx

  4. borderlinebella · · Reply

    Ive recently decided to start a blog about my experiences with BPD. In my recent post I tried to explain what BPD really meant for me and found myself struggling to write. Thank you for writing your list a about what it means for you, sometimes its hard to notice things in yourself that seem more obvious when they are mentioned by other people. In particular thank you for mentioning eating disorders, as i feel that they are still a taboo subject among BPD sufferers. It is an important co-morbid condition that many of us suffer with, and i don’t feel that enough of us talk about how this effects us. Thank you for this post, i look forward to exploring more of your blog. BorderlineBella xxx

    1. I’m glad I could help. xx

  5. im loving this site. it feels so good to know im not alone. especially during these winter months. idk been really down lately

    1. I hope you are feeling a little better. If you need any help, please get in touch xx

  6. Mark Osterloh · · Reply

    Borderline Personality Disorder is the most difficult to understand and diagnose mental illnesses. As a consequence there is little awareness of its existence in the general public. If there were greater awareness, more resources would be brought to the table to help these people. I believe the biggest problem is its name. “Borderline” means nothing in helping us understand the condition. I have proposed that we change the name to Faultfinding Personality Disorder based on the most important diagnostic criterion – chronic finding of fault with themselves and others due to their black-and-white thinking which leads to disturbed interpersonal relationships. To back this up I wrote the book “Faultfinders: The impact of borderline personality disorder.” I explained the condition using examples of numerous famous people to make the symptoms memorable. I would be interested to hear what others think about a possible name change.

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