Tag Archives: Dbt

Dealing with death when you are borderline

Death is hard for everyone. No matter what you believe, whether it be god and heaven and that you will see that person again, whether it is re-incarnation or whether it is just that what we are gone we are gone – nothing makes death any easier to bear. The concept of someone you love no […]

So where does borderline begin?

As always, I have been doing a lot of thinking, and as I watch my parents with my young daughter, things seem to be becoming a little clearer in my mind. When looking at how a condition like BPD develops, I do believe that there are many elements to each case – firstly you start […]

Interpersonal Effectiveness – Part three (the skills)

As described in my first post, an overview of interpersonal effectiveness, there are 3 main goals in interpersonal effectiveness: 1) Object Effectiveness 2) Relationship Effectiveness 3) Self Respect Effectiveness For each of these goals, there is an acronym to help you remember how to achieve them. Object Effectiveness – gaining your objectives/goals in any given […]

Interpersonal Effectiveness – Part two (Making requests, being assertive & and assertive listening)

When interacting with others, you will sometimes need to decide whether it is appropriate to ask for something (and how to go about doing it), and whether it is appropriate to refuse a request when asked. How you ask or refuse should depend on the situation, and these skills are an important part of looking after […]

Dialectical Behaviour Therapy – Interpersonal Effectiveness (Part one – an overview)

Please note: All handouts are courtesy of Marsha Linehan, in her book “Skills Training Manual for the Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder”. She retains the copyright. As I now have a little more time on my hands I am resurrecting my review of the book “Skills Training Manual for treating Borderline Personality Disorder” by Marsha […]

2015 – A new start.

Hi Guys! Well, it’s been quite a while since I last posted, and a lot has happened in that time. On November 12th 2014 I gave birth to my beautiful daughter, Evelyn Poppy. I won’t go into the details save to say birth is pretty horrendous, but it is true when they say you forget […]

Crazy (but good) update!

Hi Guys! Just wanted to drop you a line to let you know how things are going. I have been updating a little more regularly over on my other blog here as I don’t want to clog up this one with baby related stuff (that I’m sure a lot of you wouldn’t be interested in!). Anyway, […]