Tag Archives: self help
Dialectical Behaviour Therapy – Interpersonal Effectiveness (Part one – an overview)
Please note: All handouts are courtesy of Marsha Linehan, in her book “Skills Training Manual for the Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder”. She retains the copyright. As I now have a little more time on my hands I am resurrecting my review of the book “Skills Training Manual for treating Borderline Personality Disorder” by Marsha […]
I am the luckiest girl in the world
Hey, I know they all say that, but I really feel it, and that’s all that matters. Everything is going so well with James, and with him in my life, I feel as though I can cope with anything that life is going to bring my way. I have slowly opened up to him, and […]
DBT Skill ‘FAST’ & ‘DEARMAN’ in action
The DBT skills DEARMAN and FAST is used when you are in a confrontational situation where you need to maintain the respect for yourself whilst still being assertive and putting your point across. DEAR MAN is an acronym for Describe, Express, Assert, Re-inforce, (stay) Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate FAST is an acronym for be Fair, […]
Having a child when you have Borderline Personality Disorder
As far back as I can remember, I have wanted to have a family, but when I got ill I stopped believing it would ever happen. Now I have met James, I have allowed the thought to enter my head again, but obviously not until the time is right. I want to be in a […]
Free Online DBT Class – Start now if you are thinking about it
Last week the on-line DBT class that I do once per week ended, and it started again on Saturday at the beginning, with Lesson One, an introduction to DBT. This is a REALLY great class, I can’t say enough how much it is helping me. Every Saturday morning the moderators post a lesson from whichever […]
Homework number five: Online DBT Class
This week was a re-cap of the Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills, from the free on-line DBT class group http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/dbtclass/ HOMEWORK: Write out your examples of using the skills, made up or for real! Practising the skill FAST Yesterday I had a situation where the postman who delivers the mail to work made an inappropriate comment. I […]
Distress Tolerance – Part Five (Accepting Reality)
When finding yourself in a distressing situation, it can be a very useful skill to be able to accept the reality of that situation. In DBT terms, this is done through Radical Acceptance, Turning the Mind and Willingness . The word ‘radical’ means complete and total – which leads on to the fact that Radical […]
Distress Tolerance – Part Four (Pro’s and Con’s)
The final part of the distress tolerance module is about thinking of pro’s and con’s of tolerating or not tolerating a situation. The end goal of this process is allowing yourself to work out and understand that the pro’s of tolerating a situation far outweigh the pro’s of not tolerating it – and this can […]
